When it comes to being loved and cared for by the people in our lives we often set ourselves up for big disappointments especially when we have expectations around what love and being cared for SHOULD look like and by doing so we close ourselves off from enjoying the experiences that we encounter with the person or people because somehow they didn't express themselves in a way that met our expectations.
I know that this has been true for me in the past especially around relationships with parents, children, friends and family, in fact my judgment of how it should be created stories in my mind that eventually became visible within the relationships and over time the relationships became more and more strained as I became trapped in the illusion of abandoned, not accepted, rejected, not loved and feelings of very alone..
I was able to begin to untangle myself from these patternings when I recognized that everyone has their own way of expressing love and showing that they DO care and more importantly when I began to meet my own emotional needs and choose to turn towards loving and caring for myself I began to cherish the encounters I am gifted and eventually I lost the need to control, judge and attach myself to silly ideals and expectations of how others SHOULD BE, DO or BEHAVE.
I am not suggesting that you sign up for being abused or shit upon but instead that you place yourself at the center of your own care package and learn to honor and cherish yourself, set strong boundaries and learn to say NO when you want to and YES because that is truly what you want to say and not so much out of being a sacrificial lamb that sets yourself aside to please someone else as you build resentment and abandon you.
I truly believe that everyone does their best to survive life and to share intimacy and closeness at the level that we are capable of. Earth with its polarity hasn't been an easy ride on the loving kindness train.. and for many experiences and family patterns have created a closed off and disconnection to diving into deeper more affectionate encounters.
The relationship with yourself is the most valuable relationship you can ever build. Please say yes to being loving and kind to you and in return you will be less needy and others will begin to mirror the way you treat yourself.. remember someone else can not fill your inner void only your inner connection to your Source can do this.. we can lift one another up and breathe hope but the deep stuff only you can fully transcend and As you clear out density, old hurts and pain you lift to higher ground and your relationships lift too.
Remember the villains in our lives are every bit as important as the saints.. there is NO such thing as an encounter that SHOULD NOT Have BEEN.. put down all the pre-conceived ideas about how others should be and let the un folding of the journey become your enjoyment..
I truly love you all.. thank you for sharing this game called life with me..
How we show up for ourselves in our lives is how we show up for others.. say YES to you and choose to honor yourself.. build a relationship that is strong, supporting, honoring and deeply compassionate.. you are your first friend and your last friend in fact aside from Creator the only friend that is with you 💯 percent of the time ... you are precious... treat yourself that way... 💖 and just remember if you forgot how it's never too late to learn all over again.. 💖💫🔥
saying "YES" to you is the most important "YES" you will ever say... please stop abandoning yourself... make you a priority.. you are WORtHY..
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Times of harsh experiences are here to lead us out of captivity and into the light.
Even the people who choose this life path to play the role of the villain are here for the purpose of being our healers.
As paradoxical as this may seem it is the truth. They didn't come in to work on their self and to expel their own darkness but instead came in to trigger the hidden hurts of the people who choose to utilize this life span as a means to heal our soul linage and the linage of the human race. Without the triggers we would not have a way to locate the repressed pain and coping mechanisms and emotional patterns.
Big shifts occur out of times of harsh conditions, for example on a global level the experiences of the holocaust brought about a lot of grief and loss and in return people felt their feelings and it led many into unity. The Great Depression brought about a space of fear for survival and people had the opportunity to work through past life or linage healing through the experience of their time and a lot of people came together and began to cultivate resources.
If you have been placed into a family of origin that provided a harsh childhood chances are pretty high that you choose to utilize this life time to claim the family shadows and to work through your own inner darkness from the harsh and painful experiences and in turn you clear the whole.
We are at a very interesting time, it is a time of a great awakening, the energies of the collective are pushing us into facing our shadows, instead of letting shadow projections scare you into shutting down utilize the triggers as a means for freeing yourself and in return it clears it for humanity.
We all have many roles that we play, sometimes we are the villain and sometimes we are the saint, it isn't necessarily fixed. Take each experience and dig deep inside and instead of making it about the people who appear to be hurting you or bringing you happiness utilize the experiences as locating the inner density or your own inner joy and extract the poison or the passion into your Life giving Elixir. This will assist you with the marriage of the inner twin or the yin/yang, balance and harmony.
Life is not happening to us but through us and it is always 💯 percent of the time delivering exactly what we are ready to face and meeting our needs.
If we put our worth in the hands of other humans we will always wind up on a wavering roller coaster ride of high highs and low lows.. ALL determined by lack of response, not receiving the response we might have wished for and tossed to the heights of the heavens when we receive the response we thought we needed.. and then again on the decent into the hellish landscape or the mind when the reaction we hoped for fell through..
I am not saying to exit relationships or to go live in a lonesome cave because we all need one another and connecting is part of our vitality.. what I am saying is more about Finding your inner light and let it help you to dismantle all of who you are not and allow it to guide you to the Infinite you.. take the disempowering record off the wheel and flood your mind with words that build precept upon precept of Glory and Grace.. choose to reside within Ease.. and Grace ...
"How can I live within a higher version of experiencing myself and existence without wavering my worth based upon humans response or lack of response and truly experience the Divine in all of my interactions? Show me.."
💯 of humans have one or more ways that is used as an escape mechanism, it's just that some forms have been deemed as not acceptable by the collective and if you so happen to experience expressing yourself by utilizing one of the taboo methods you have the job of not only setting the behavior down but then owning the collective shadow within the shame stigma that centers around that particular choice...
You do not have to let it own any part of your identity.. it's not you.. you simply choose to experience something and in so doing it came with cause and effect outcome that might have created a bit of dissidence or chaos or maybe not so much.. maybe you skated....
Realize that you are fluid, life is fluid and within everyday of your life you express yourself in a multitude of different ways.. some you enjoyed and others not so much.. some might have become so robotic that you don't even stop to process what occurred anymore..
If you where to break your day down into segments and journal your thoughts, feelings, emotions, words and actions soon you would recognize your triggers, patterns, and ways of processing your life and over time you might just recognize who the voice in your head belongs to and if you pay particular attention you would see the correlation between cause and effect and would soon stop letting some of the silliness run you.. and would most likely gain enough awareness that you could easily course correct.. when needed...
Please choose to Let yourself off the hook.. if you expressed yourself in a way that deems shame, blame, hate, unforgivness, sadness etc, make friends with that you that expressed yourself in that manner .. and please stop owning the identity.. you are not anyone of the horrible things that might be behind a man made judgement or label.. you are far greater than any of that .. you are a perfect creation visiting Earth doing your best to figure out how to be human..
Tons of love,
Holding space with a open heart..vibrational match to being disrespected and an invitation to heal DEEPER..'
i woke up this morning feeling a bit sad. I wasn't sure exactly why and truthfully it didn't matter.. I had began writing a bit as a way of releasing some of the heaviness and my phone rang. It was a call from someone who is very special to me in fact I love them a ton. They could tell something was wrong and asked me what it was. I hadn't yet worked through it my self and wasn't able to talk about it yet and truthfully didn't want to. Soon the conversation flipped 360 degrees around and they blew up at me for my choice to stay silent.
As i I sit here processing the whole event I first have to take responsibility for being a vibrational match to their outburst. I do this by asking my self what part of me was being a bit abrasive to myself and what part of me dodnt feel safe in that moment and was ready for be embraced.. in locating within myself the answers deep healing begins to take shape Ian's at some point in the near future experiences such as this morning will be a thing of the past.. I am not by any means justifying less then loving encounters but I am saying if we locate the stuff within purselves that is ready to heal we no longer need to experience events that produce a similar trigger..
if i was to say say exactly what it was I needed in that moment it was for them to gift me my space, I could have made the choice to not answer the call but I chose instead to answer. During the call the more that I felt un-safe the higher the encounter became emotionally charged.. and within minutes it was ugly. I hung up the phone and they began texting me words that felt like vomit. I have a choice and so do you and my choice is to draw my line in the sand and say "NO TO SELF ABUSE AND NO TO ABUSE BY OTHERS.. it is to dig DEEPER AND FIND THE NEXT SPOT WITHIN ME THAT IS CRYING OUT FOR MY ATTENTION..
in a experience with someone that is capable of holding space in a way that is helpful I jotted down some of what has been helpful for me in the past and what has worked as I held space for another..
If you are in the presence of someone and you can sense something is wrong you can choose to be of support for them but if will require creating a safe space for them to reside.
You do this by dropping from your head space and into your heart space opening it up and allowing the loving energies to flow forth.. it isn't necessary to try to heal them or find a way to make them open up and talk, but by letting the love of the Infinite flow forth and let it do what it knows how to do.. if the person is ready to shed their stuff they will naturally shed it, if they are not ready to then that is perfectly okay too..
everyone has a time and a season and sometimes that season is a bit dark. At times darkness is necessary and can be really useful for finding strength, wisdom, mercy and grace and a tool to create enough discomfort for changes..
HOLDing space requires you having the ability to sit in the discomfort of your own darkness and the ability of being in a state of allowance and letting someone experience what ever it is that they need to without you projecting your discomfort upon their experience..
Sitting in silence can be a beautiful time and a lot of shifts can occur within the seat of ones infinite heart space..'love is all that resides.. being a space holder is an art that anyone willing to learn can eventually master.
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Kristy Lee is a Intuitive Energy Practicionor who is a strong channel. She writes as a way of giving her experiences a voice to bring forth Healing unto the nations. sharing her journey opens space for you to share yours.
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