It only takes one person to see someone beyond a difficult experience and upon higher ground for a shift to occur. This takes the ability to see beyond the problem and to travel into a future time where the person is whole and complete, HEALED, happy and prosperous.
holding space is an art and learning the art of holding space is one of the greatest skills you can bring into your own life and the life of the people who you engage with.. Holding space means that you are willing to walk along side someone in what ever journey they're on without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to make them bend to your perspective of what you believe their life should look like. When you hold space for other people, you open your heart, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgment and control.
It's also important to be mindful of who you choose to bring your problems to or discuss someone else's problems with, remember the power of life and death is in the tongue. therefore what you speak over ypur life, the life of another and your experiences is influenced by what is spoken and each time you repeat a problem it gives the problem more power but if we speak whole, happy, provided for and complete then it builds to the energies of solutions.
Think of a time in your life when you or someone you care about was in the hospital or was experiencing a divorce, loss of a job or financial burdens. If your response was to pick up the phone, call everyone you know and you give the low down and everyone gives you their advise it most likely left you more confused then clear on what you should do as your next step not to mention. Nothing feels uglier then reaching out to someone that begins to tell you how you are wrong or what you should have, could have or they would have done something different. We can be our own worst critic right? It isn't helpful to have someone else do it for us.
Let's say someone comes to you with a problem and you find yourself triggered, meaning feeling anger, extreme sadness, fear, sorrow or other heavy emotions, it most likely is not the persons problem that you are truly upset with. but instead it is likely that it is something within you that is asking for your attention and is an invitation to take a look inside and once you heal the aspect requesting your attention then you will then. be equipped to assist. someone else..
Here is 8 steps to help you create a safe space for people to share their darker times and to maneuver through holdimg space with a bit more ease and grace, again it is a art and takes practice and the more you put it into practice the better you become.
1. Give people permission to trust their own intuition and inner wisdom. Remind them that they are wise and that you trust them too. Even if it appears that they are being un-wise. People grow from falling and deep lessons come from times that we have to dig deep to find inner strength.
2. Be mindful of. The amount of information you give someone, too much can create a feeling of not being complete, useless or incompetent. Seems crazy right? But truly there is no one wiser then the inner wiser you.
3. Let others own their power and worth. Again power can be found in hard times, if we are always running after someone to prevent their fall we actually stunt their growth.
4. Keep your ego out of it! This is a BIG one. Someone else's success is not dependent on your intervention and someone else's seemingly failure doesn't reflect upon you. Let someone own their own experiences.
5. Create a space where they feel safe to fall. A baby didn't learn to walk with out falling and we don't learnt o grow with out stumbling. When someone falls they can learn, grow, experience transitions and eventually find the strength to stand back up again, especially if we see them as capable.
6. Leave shame and blame out of it and by all means leave the past in the past. Shame, blame and throwing stuff in someone's face that is experiencing a hard time SURE the hell doesn't help resolution to occur gracefully.
7. Create a container that is safe for them to openly express what ever it is they are experiencing.. this takes being able to sit in your own darkness befor you are able to sit with someone in theirs. A safe container holds support for someone to talk about traumatic experiences, fears and to let out heavier emotions. Within this container a lot can be released and the sense of the burden is lifted. It needs to be a space where they feel safe enough to fall all of the way apart without feeling permanently broken. WE honostly can NEVER FALL TOO FAR! EVER!
8. Give others permission to choose their experiences and solutions differently then you would. Everyone is here to learn and grow and each person has a plan created just for them, no two people are exactly alike.. again if you are triggered by someone else's choice there is most likely a lesson in it for you too. Real yourself back in and check into your inner world and ask what it is that you are to learn. Most the time it can be found in resisting life as a stage unfolding within Divine perfection and another chance for you to heal and grow.
As a A mother, friend, daughter and energy practitioner I can tell you first hand that I have been challenged more then once to resolve my own inner turmoil that has been triggered from something I had brought to my awareness by another. It hasn't always been easy to face and there has been times I have had to reach out to a friend or mentor to hold space for me as I met the inner makings of my own world. I can promise you that It is worth facing your stuff, every time because each time you get to grow and become lighter and brighter and then can assist others more effectively and at a higher level..
one last trick! Sometimes reaching towards a. Nutural party such as a councler, Healer or a emotionally mature friend or family member is the wisest space to unload your disodence as they most likely are not going to be tangeled into all the details and can keep the projections at bay. I personally only share my "stuff" with someone who is skilled and capable of holding space and will forget the experience when it is over and sees me as brilliant, whole and complete as I manouver through dipping into my own darkness..
NOW FOR THE BIGGER PICTURE- you can hold the BISION FOR SOMEONE TO BE WHOLE, HEALED, PROSPEROUS, SUPPORTED, HAPPY, SUCCESSFUL, SUPPPRTED AND LOVED, and if you hold this vision WITHOUT WAVERING NO MATTER WHAT IS PRESENT. The SHIFT HAS NO CHOICE BUT TO EVENTUALLY OCCUR!!! This my friends is POWERFUl! Walk. Y faith and not by sight and claim GODS words as your truth...if you are WILLING TO DO YOUR OWN INNWR WORK AND RISE IN CONSCIOUSNESS YOU CAN HELP RAISE THE COLLECTIVE WHOLE..
many blessings to you all! Please turn towards you and choose to be really good to yourself. You are worthy.
Our bellies can be wonderful monitors of our emotional health and the truth can always be found there.
Hold your hands palm open on your abdomen, eyes closed, deep breathe in and ask- "please reveal to me my true emotions" do your best to sit with the answers and let the wisdom pour forth.. your body is wise and it wants to guide you into better understanding yourself and to work as one unit.. your body is a sacred temple..
This week I was reminded once again of the power and necessaty of connecting into my deeper emotions and wanted to share a little bit of the wisdom with you.. of what my perspective is and a process that works for me .
So often, emotions that we long to express get stored in our bodies instead. The space where this most often happens is in our bellies. Rather than telling people, our even ourselves, the way we truly feel, we may stuff our true feelings deep inside of us, where they take up space until we are ready to let them go. Stuffing our feelings in our bellies may feel like the "safe" response, since we then don't really have to deal with our emotions. Yet, doing so can actually be detrimental to our emotional well-being and physical health.
One way to connect with and release your emotions is to do a focused exercise with your stomach area. Take a moment to center yourself with some deep breathing and quiet meditation, relaxing your body fully and turning off the chatter in your brain. With your right hand on your stomach, tell yourself three times: "Please reveal to me my true emotions." Listen for the answers. Repeat the exercise as many times as you would like, allowing yourself to drop deeper into your body each time. Notice any physical response in the stomach area, whether you have a warm, relaxed feeling in the middle of your body or if you feel tight knots in response to any emotions that do come up. You may even want to write down any answers that come to you. Remember that the body doesn't lie.
Releasing our pent up feelings from our bellies can prevent disease and allow us to live more authentic and expressive lives. Sometimes, if too much emotional energy builds up inside of us, a blowout can result that can cause discomfort. You can help to alleviate this compression by doing the same exercise and adding sound to your emotional release. The more guttural the sounds released through your mouth, the more emotions you are likely letting go. Releasing your emotions from your belly doesn't have to be painful and hard; rather, it can be organic and effortless. It's important not to judge whatever comes up for you. We tend to stuff our feelings in our bellies when we are ashamed of them or not ready to express them. There is nothing wrong with having feelings, whatever they may be. You can't help your feelings; if anything, you can help yourself by acknowledging the truth of your emotions so you can set yourself free.
Every decision can be used as the correct decision in your life if you are able to perceive you are choosing exactly what you need based upon what you need to learn in your life right now.
If you have found yourself in a series of harsh lessons and feel like you are in a state of indecision you have still made a decision.
The universe doesn't stop, you have simply made the decision to let life make the decision for you and if your mindset is with lack, limitation, resentment, anger, grief, fear, the experiences that will be offered to you will resemble the emotional charge of those thought patterns.
At any point in time you can choose something else. You do this by releasing the past and then you choose to experience life through the lens of gratitude, joy, prosperity and visualize your relationships being of a higher more aligned experience and the world offering you presents instead of hardship.
If you don't know how to create a life you will enjoy ask to be shown, speaking these simple words will assist you; "show me how it can get better then this." "THANK YOU"
You can then simply discern the offerings. You do this by asking yourself a series of questions:
1. Does this experience offer support?
2. Do I shrink in the site of this decision or do I expand?
3. Am I standing within my value system if I choose this experience?
4. Am I choosing to spend my time with people that see their own worth and do they see mine?
5. Am I settling for the job, the mate, the friendships that keep me stuck?
6. Can I grow within this experience in a way that will be joyful and pleasant?
7. Am I honoring myself?
8. Am I making me small to make someone else big?
9. Is this choice aligned with my purpose?
10. Is this choice aligned with my passion?
11. Is this choice creating something that resembles me expressing myself as my higher me, is the ripple effect of my choice creating ripples that assist the all?
HOW CAN IT GET BETTER THEN THIS? SHOW ME!
Flood your life with life giving substance, change your mindset, change your perspective, choose to become a really great choice maker and take the steps that will lead you into what you truly desire.
You can do this. The whole universe is supporting you no matter if you are making choices to experience a harsh life or a life you desire.
Remember the man who looks outside will stay trapped in a dream the man who goes within SEES! It's a paradox..
Choose your thoughts, feelings, words and actions based upon life giving substance and you can live a really great life.
As a child I lived in the city but my family had a charming little A frame cabin in the county and a father who absolutely loves wild animals, being in a boat or four wheeling up, up, up to a really high mountain top where we would walk out to some really amazing ridge and witness natures magical formations from a birds eye view.
I can vaguely remember when my grandfather cut a dirt road that led the way up and into our property, the vehicles of family members with chains and some kind of a wooden boxes with screen and boards or something that after several passes made the road a little easier to drive upon.
The only other structures that I can Remember that where near our cabin was my grandparents they built a foundation and brought in a cute little one bedroom house that sat a little bit above ours and my Aunt and uncles amazing log cabin that they built a few years later a little lower and to the east, Mr. and Mrs Clarks that was down lower right before the red rock formations and a family from California that had brought in a trailer further down the road towards the west.
My dad had an old topless army jeep that had the capability to travel over just about any terrain and my dad loved to pack us kids and my mom into it and drive off as we explored areas we hadn't yet traveled. Often times on our drives wild horses would run along with us. I can remember being so excited and in awe of their beauty and fierceness with their manes and tails blowing in the wind as they kicked up dirt and traveled along at times galloping and others running at full speed. I can still here the sounds of the hoofs hitting the dirt, the nayyy' sounds and the sound that almost seems like really loud huge nostrils blowing a snotty nose, sometimes when I close my eyes and drift back in time into these magical moments, I loved watching them rare up and throw their heads into the sky. Wild horses are really amazing creatures.
To the east of the cabin was a sand wash that had sand formations and red rock, it was dry most in the spring, summer and into fall. I use to play make believe in it, it seems like when I was there nothing else but me and with what ever rock I would pick up, my nature friends and fairies existed. Wild paintbrush dancing in the wind while birds and other winged animals drifted in and out of there dimensions letting me be a witness to their beauty every now and again.
Off the front of the cabin was a large deck that didn't have rails, I loved laying upon it and staying up way late at night until my eyes could hardly stay open as I drifted off into the sky with the twinkling stars, the big and Little Dipper and what ever other planets aligned and shown bright that night.
It was always a treat to eat yummy s'mores with marshmallows roasted on a crackling bon- fire that we cooked at the end of a whittled Willow stick that we crafted with my dads sharp pocket knife after a delicious meal my mom prepared and cooked in the coals in a old cast iron Dutch oven. My mom is a classy women, she loved things to be just right and it seems she made sure the table was properly set and had some pretty kind of table cloth, and special decorations even when we where camping she made sure to prepare a space that signed her signature of elegance.
One tree that set maybe 5 or 6 feet away from the cabin was struck by lightning a few times. That tree had a throng spirit, no matter how many times it was hit it never fully lost its will for life. Amazing, right?
I loved playing with blue belly lizards and horny toads, the horny toads moved a little slower then the lizards and they didn't seem to mind being held, the lizard on the other hand would loose a tail if they had to, their only goal was to be left alone and as I have gained a little wisdom I can certainly understand why. I can kind of remember my oldest brother Kym catching a double headed lizard one time, to be honest with you, that lizard kinda scarred the day lights out of me but for some reason curiosity got the best of me and I forced my self to check him out.
One time in the early spring we found chipmunk babies left behind by their momma underneath the cabins bathroom sink. We took them back home with us to the city and cared for them with feedings out of a dropper and kept them until they kept getting loose in our house and scaring my mom, she would scream and scream in fear to get them away from her and out of her house. I don't blame her and they really didn't belong caged up in the house.
When I travel into my past I can really acknowledge the gift of the country. I still love outdoors and at times relate better with nature than I do with people. Nature truly has been my best friend and the experiences in nature some of my greatest teachers.
Thank you Mom and Dad for gifting me this love and for so many magical childhood experiences. I truly honor all you have gifted me. Most importantly, you gifted me access into this life and the tapestry to emerge into the being I am. I love you..
The out picturing physical world is simply a guidance map that leads you into a greater understanding of the makings of your inner world.
In the Bible it is spoken to 'Walk by faith and not by sight,' by doing so you can shift your out pictured reality into a higher alignment. The trick is to have understanding of who you are as a Divine creation and claiming the blessings that are promised to you.
Jesus spoke "every thing that I can do you can do also." Jesus demonstrated within his teachings what it is like to walk in the knowingness of being one with God and utilizing the power and authority of this understanding. Jesus commanded things to occur, and they occurred. His teachings are all about restoration, love, hope grace and mercy.
Heal the sick
Make the blind man see
The deaf hear
The mute speak
Turned water to wine
Split the sea
Walked on water
Over came death
Freed the sinner
the dead came to Life
and Left you with the spirit of peace and took away fear.
He Discerned lower truth's and didn't buy into temptation, he trumped temptation with speaking the higher truth over the lower truth, the deception and the lies fell powerless to the Higher truth's.
And left the commandment of loving your neighbor, loving God and to love yourself.
He also reminds you that your perception of your burdens are not yours they are Gods.
'As a man thinks in his heart so is he'
If you want to really truly know who you are learn from nature, study Sacred scribes in quiet places and ask for inner guidance.
Jesus did not beg, barter and plead. He took authority and stood in the Power of God and told you to do the same thing.
Israel is a place located on the map but the children of Israel are Gods children. You where told the lot you are given is the lot you perceive. If your lot is complicated and full of experiences you do not enjoy, set that life down and claim something higher. If you do not know how or what to claim ask to be shown.
You are created in the likeness and image of God. You where created and called perfect. A plan for your life was designed before you came to this place we call Earth and all things that you have gone through or will ever go through are part of this plan and each experience is being worked out for the good.
I have visited hell and hell is where I was raptured up into the overwhelming goodness of Gods Love.
Yet, at times I still forget who I am, the power and authority that I have been granted and the blessings that are awaiting my acknowledgement, I stumble and I fall into the illusionary nature of being separated from God, separated from others, separate from the Universe, I become powerless and feel not worthy of the goodness of a great and supported life and at times I forget to love. In this illusionary state I believe what I see before me and it swirls me into the abyss of hell. I can attest that at the point of surrender I am rescued. EVERY TIME!
When I set the intension to see myself, others and my experiences through the lens of Gods eyes and to be led to higher ground it occurs. Just like you, I am still a work in progress. Clay being formed and reformed time and time again.
We are here to learn how to navigate within this dimension, how to create and Co-create in a more physical reality, yet the physical dimension isn't completely physical, everything is alive and everything holds consciousness. It's about becoming more consciously aware.
Map your experiences to your thought life, point of focus and spoken words, if you are earnest in doing this you will quickly see the correlation. It is impossible to control your thoughts because we are all connected as a collective and the experiences of all floats through the mind but we can choose what thoughts we entertain and we can choose what we speak and focus upon. If you are spinning yourself into chaotic cycle it's something that is most likely occurring due to a sub-conscious program that is running in the back ground that is governed by a lower truth, you can always course correct. Always!
"Show me how it can get better then this!"
"Guide me as I walk through my life"
"Teach me how to love without conditions"
Choose to Seek the goodness in your life and you my friends will get more and more of this. If you stumble toss your burdens to the God inside and walk free under grace..
If you have a dream that is planted with a burning radiance deep within you heart you will be given everything that you need that is necessary to bring it into fruition.
The trick is within overcoming your limited ability to perceive the magnitude in which your dream can be supported and all of the support that is all around you awaiting your recognition.
As humans we get caught in the trap of somehow believing we have to "FIGURE" out the HOW when in truth the how isn't your worry, it is Gods and Source God has the entirety of the Universe to utilize as your support system.
Your job is to get into the energy and flow of your dream with a forward moving momentum with a high level of enjoyment that you feel as if it is already complete while keeping the wonderment of it growing and expanding.yet discerning the opportunities that are presented to you as options as each one is presented to you.
Here is a tried and true formula that has been used by Others such as Henery Ford when he was given the dream of the Model T. Bob Proctor when he was given the dream of creating retreats and seminars and of Earnest Nightengale that brought into fruition several books and teachings way back through the ages with some of his earliest work begining in 1920' somethings.
to begin you attain a declaration.
"I (insert your name), DECLARE, that I will open (insert your dream) a luxurious Healing center by (add a believable date) that is created perfect for me by The Divine plan for my life, I will provide (action step) one example (excellent care for clients that are magnetized and aligned to me and are ready to receive what I offer at the level I am prepared to deliver to them within the highest quality right now." "DELIVER THIS OR SOMETHING GREATER!" "Thank you, thank you, thank you, so it is and so it be."
Write this on an index card and hang it in areas you will look at and read atleast every morning upon rising and each evening as retiring into sleep.and Carry a copy in your purse or wallet.
Next each evening write 6 action steps for the next day that will assist you into moving forward within your dream.
Here is a list of ideas for the manifesto above.
1. Check email and voicemails and respond. To each one that requires attention.
2. Create introduction for community healing event.
3. Secure location for up-coming energy healing event.
4. Write bullet point presentation for event.
6. List the public event on FB and Meet up.
(create a new list each day, it can be less then 6 just no more as it is easier to keep excitement if not over stacked with TODO lists)
start at # 1 and do not go to #2 until #1 is complete and so forth and so on. Your action steps DO NOT have to be large simple actions keep focus and build to the momentum of your dream..
everyday reaffirm your manifesto atleast twice a day, once in the morning at waking and before bed as you turn in for the night. Remember to include GRATITUDE, graduate is a huge opening into the manifestation of a REALLY GREAT LIFE, this or something greater, this or something greater, THIS or SOMETHING Greater..
be mindful of who you share your dream with because each person you share it with will either build to the excitement of it or build to the doubt of it and having other people's energies tangled into your dream can either create a tapestry that is Easier or harder for you to keep the momentum in your actions and attitude as you are in action moving forward.. Choose wisely!!!
THIS or SOMETHING GREATEr..
When a conversation starts out with "I am always a positive person..., " it's just about a guarantee that the next portion of the conversation will be spent listening to the person make right in their mind reasons why it's okay to not be positive right now...
People, NO ONE IS Happy and gleaming in rainbows, unicorns and fairy dust magic 100 % of the time!!! No one!!!
Give yourself permission to be human and by all means realize that the state you are currently in isn't permanent, it's simply an EXPERIENCE- and all you are doing is expressing yourself.. the core of you is always alright.. perfect infact!!!
expressing yourself is something that is flexible.. just think about the multitudes of ways you fluctuate between conversations. You certainly won't speak to a 2 year old in the same tone you address your 50 year old aunt. The way you express yourself to the postman is certainly different then how you express yourself to your best friend. The way you express yourself to a new neighbor will be a bit different then the way you express yourself to your mom.. you get it..
let yourself off the hook a bit more, you will be a heck of a lot happier!!!
"My lower self is a spiritual badass, she is Strong, courageous, witty, creative, determined, a survivor with a WILL that refuses to quite, she is full of strength, she has assisted me in surviving the darkest of times, without her I would NOT be ALIVE, she deserves credit for serving me during times of pure hell and utterly terrifying darkness and for taking all of the self abuse that I dished upon her as I beat myself up for seemingly past mistakes. She is worthy of honor."
Question: "Why is it when you don’t want something (say to get married), it seems to show up everywhere (proposals left and right). But when you’re pining for something (same scenario), you can’t seem to get a guy to look at you?”
Life is NOT happening to YOU. It is happening through YOU and RESPONDING to your commands. You are in a partnership with the creative flow of energy and intelligence that is ever present in all things.
So often life delivers a great big dish of hardship and confusing conditions that shape your sub-conscious mind and the lenses in which you interpreted the events sets into motion more of the same shit sandwich.
If you take the time to extract the gift in the hardships you can begin to see the experiences as a gift that formed compassion, strength, mercy, grace and you can see the strength of your WILL that carried you to the other side. You can find the support that popped into your reality at just the right time. Even if it wasn't the support you thought that you needed. You are made It through to the other side. Every single time.
In order for the trajectory of ones life to shift into a higher alignment you have to be willing to heal the past, let go of the "what did not work" and hold onto what did.
Extract the gifts. The gold. The pearls of great price. Yes, it is within every single one of your experiences.
Do you think that the oyster enjoyed the parisite? Or the gold enjoyed the pressing down and heat? Both are symbolic of the irritants that forged the shit sandwiches and plates of hardship.
At any moment you can choose to shift your life into something great, something that you desire. It takes clarity, preserverence and accountability.
The universe does not know the the difference between WANT and DONT WANT. If you are speaking about what you do not want you are creating just that.
Change your story to a powerful story line and be a witness to the un-foldmemt of a brand new higher aligned life.
if you do not have a clue what that may be catch yourself as you speak about what you do not want and say "clear, clear, clear, clear, clear, clear..." until you feel the shift. Then say "SHOW ME HOW IT CAN GET BETTER THEN THIS." This alone will continue to elevate you out of a seemingly impossible spiral into the abyss and pull you into a better and higher aligned life.
I am passionate about this because I have lived both sides and it took me BEING shook apart and broken down to a broke enough heart that I became teachable. Pride comes befor the fall of every man and if you want to prevent more hardships humble yourself by agreeing that you DO NOT KNOW it all and let the Goodness of the Universe guide you. It's totally within your reach to be assisted.
Life is not happening to you, it is happening through you and it is responding to your beliefs and commands. Most of which are sub-conscious. Use your experiences as your guiding posts and choose to course correct. It's totally shiftable within every moment.
"The words you habitually choose affect how you communicate with yourself and therefore what you experience". - Tony Robbins
everything you desire is on the other side of fear. Tell fear to Get out of here, it DOESN'T belong, tell fear goodbye, tell fear you are done with it. Say goodbye to fear once and for all..
I now choose to let go of attempting to control the unfoldment of my life, and as I let go it collapses resistance and opens up a multitude of possibilities.
The Decks are now cleared and I hand my needs over to Divine intelligence, I release worn out ideas, conditions, beliefs, relationships, opinions, judgments, anger, hate and resentments. Divine order Is established in my mind, body, energies, soul, spirit, and all of my affairs, i am willing to precieve it can get better than this, I am open to receive Divine assistance as I now choose to walk free under Grace.. my life is within EASE and GRACE.
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Kristy Lee is a Intuitive Energy Practicionor who is a strong channel. She writes as a way of giving her experiences a voice to bring forth Healing unto the nations. sharing her journey opens space for you to share yours.
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